Surprisingly this episode caught me totally unguarded and it actually made a lot of sense to me. Probably because I had no expectations from it. Today, after many months, I didn’t even feel the Friday frenzy.
So we moved on to actually address the basic and biggest problem of the relationship between Kashaf and Zaroon. They don’t share too much with each other, and possibly keep more things away and just share the day to day activities and incidents. Major decisions like Kashaf’s loan or Zaroon’s suggestion of getting Rafia to move in with them is on Kashaf’s “do not share” list.
The scene where Zaroon brings up the topic with Kashaf of not sharing things with him (while she was reading on parenting) was really nice. I felt for the poor guy, and I wanted to give Kashaf one of my whacks.
The argument that ensued on the Asmara issue, revealed Zaroon’s frustrations very well. For all that I gun men down for their double standards, I couldn’t help thinking that he was doing exactly what she was doing, in terms of not sharing. Never mind what the issue is, once it has been accepted that there will be privacy and evident non-disclosure of certain issues, anything can be held back by anyone. Who is to decide what is acceptable to hide and what is not in this kind of a case? Where does one draw the line?
One can debate that Zaroon’s not even mentioning Asmara in the last one year is not on. But then so is Kashaf taking a loan and not sharing that with him. In such a situation, anything and everything can be justified. I might be wrong, but this was actually the 1st time that an issue was talked about at length in this drama. All the issues between both of them were thrown in with their accusations and in the defense of themselves.
It is so real that when couples fight, the 1st thing is they regret that they married this person, and the next is that one of them wants to walk out of the house.
In Kashaf’s typical way, the 1st thing was to run away from the situation, and that she did by leaving the house. When the girl leaves and goes to her mother’s house, how the problem is resolved depends largely on the advice she gets from there. There are parents who can cause grave damage by advising the way Ghazala did when Sara was having trouble. And then there are parents who can help to resolve the issue and get the couple back together
I have a feeling, given what saintly Rafia has been characterized here, if Kashaf told her about the problem, she would have guided her the right way, and got some more brownie points.
Another problem I saw between these two, is that they don’t believe each other at all? or is it a part of the weak screenplay? When Kashaf told Zaroon that Usama was just a proposal and nothing else, they didn’t talk to each other for months. Now Zaroon tells her that the gender of the children makes no difference to him, and she is weeping about what he will do when he knows that there are twin girls.(in the preview)
What is with these two? Almost a year of marriage, other than eating fruit and drinking tea, and hiding big issues from each other, they don’t have a life? Evidently they don’t! That’s why they don’t share much. But yes, they are in the family way! ;)
Would really love for Zaroon to now say something about why he married Kashaf and what he thought were all the qualities she had for an ideal wife.
Kashaf’s conversation with Rafia about Murtuza was very nicely done too. (It would have been more heartwarming had we not got an overdose of Murtuza in all the episodes so far.) It is easier to judge people and the decisions they take, but only the person who is going through it knows what they are feeling.
I think Sadaf had once mentioned that Rafia did share a life with Murtuza at one time, and she must have memories of those days. I think that is what came out today, when she said she feels bad for him. And that they could have had a good life with their 3 daughters, and would have been each other’s support as they grew older. It appeared as though Kashaf, for the very first time, understood what her mother was saying. I guess when our mothers tell us “wait till you become a parent” is the biggest truth in everyone’s life. Now that Kashaf is going to be a mother, and is having issues in her marriage, she can relate to what her mother is feeling.
I wanted to fast forward the scene between Murtuza and Rafia, but I thought maybe my predictions of him offering to buy her the house would pop up. No it didn’t, but he did offer her something ridiculous. Am glad Rafia’s house has been bought for her, and she refused to take him up on his offer.
I wish this episode came 10 episodes earlier. It would have not caused the irritation and heartache the last couple of weeks have caused. All the dialogues in this episode were meaningful and made so much more sense than the way the whole drama has been meandering so far.
I’m covering for Misty this week. Reviewing is still totally alien to me and is not my forte. So please excuse any incoherence in my thoughts. Your thoughts are most welcome and would love to know your views.
Written by Roh.
MISTY asks: So whose argument holds more weight? Z or K? whose team are you on today?